The other day, I met an elderly gentleman whom I always consider my quiet mentor—one of those wise souls who never give long speeches but teach through their simple living. As we were talking, something caught my eye: a tiny diary in his hand, old, faded, and worn out, its pages bending like they had lived a long, adventurous life. Naturally, my curiosity woke up. I smiled and asked, “What secrets does this little book hold?”
He smiled gently and said, “This is my life’s diary.” Before I could understand, he opened a few pages. My eyes widened. It was filled with neat handwriting—simple sentences, small notes, dates, tiny stars, even smiley faces. He explained, “Every evening, I write three things: the good I have done, the mistakes I made and the hurts I corrected or reconciled. And of course, the blessings I received. This diary reminds me to be a better human.”
I felt like someone had shown me a hidden formula for peace. While many of us write shopping lists, he was writing character lists. While some of us chase new gadgets, he was quietly chasing a better version of himself. . No show-off, no social media updates—just honest reflection with a humble heart.
The diary beautifully taught me the 3 R’s—simple, sweet and powerful:
1. Remember and be grateful
Remember the good moments, the people who helped you, the challenges that shaped you. Gratitude is like honey—it makes every part of life taste sweeter.
2. Recognise and mean it
Recognise your mistakes with honesty. Accept where you went wrong, and appreciate where you did right. When you compliment someone, mean it. When you apologise, mean it. Growth begins when ego ends.
3. Reciprocate by good deeds
Do good because you have received good. Kindness is never wasted—it always returns, sometimes in surprising ways. Spread goodness the way the sun spreads light.
As we move towards the New Year, that little diary spoke louder to me than any fireworks. It reminded me that change does not come from big resolutions written on the 1st of January but from small reflections made every day. When we look honestly at our past, we enter the future with clarity, courage and a kinder heart.
Maybe all you need is a small diary… or even the notes app in your phone. Write a little, reflect a little, correct a little—and grow a lot.
