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What a girl wants

Namrata Arora is a certified coach and specialises in life and career transition coaching for women across the world

What a girl wants

When I was a child, I wanted to grow up. When I went toschool, I wanted to get to college. When I got through college, I wanted to goto another city. When I went to college in another city, I could not wait toget back home.

When I finished college, I wanted a job. When I got a job, Iwanted to earn more. When I wanted to buy a really great music system to listento music, I could not afford one. When I could afford it, I no longer had timeto listen to it. When I wanted to travel to all countries, I did not have theright company to travel with. When I found good company, the only travel thatwas possible was for business and was alone.

When I wanted to quit my job, I could not afford to. Do younotice a pattern here? I did. After all these years of wanting and waiting andwanting and waiting, I realized that I was stuck in this never ending cycle andI just had to break it. I decided to break free. I decided to just do what Iwanted and when I wanted it and not wait for a moment to present itself to mein the future, when, who knows, I might no longer be able to appreciate what Iwanted in the first place!

I am no longer governed by what I want and cannot have. Ilook at what I have and what I can do with it.

A completely different perspective and very liberating. Tryit…only you can break the cycle. Choose to be happy with what you have, now, aswants never end.

Stuck in the wrong job

Reading your post 'Stuck to Unstuck', I realized I havebeen stuck in one wrong job after another for the last 3 years and am unable tobe happy at my workplace. How can I break out of this?

-Anonymous from Mormugao

Dear Ms. X, first of all, congratulations on taking thefirst step of acknowledging that there is a situation you are in which needs tochange. Many of us find ourselves 'stuck' in the wrong kind of jobs and it issometimes because we have not really given much thought to what we really liketo do. It is important to think about what you are really about, what gives youtrue happiness, how much time are you really spending on doing those things andwhat is getting in your way. You might find one of my blog posts on 'DesignYour Life' in aboutcoaching.wordpress.com useful in this context. Coaching canhelp you get more clarity on the underlying issues which might be getting inyour way and can help you design a life that you deserve, in a practical way.Should you be interested in booking a trial session with me, please do nothesitate to reach out to me. Cheers to a life that is ours to choose.

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Defying the odds

Meet Emelinda Dias, the Director of Doordarshan Goa, who in spite of being shot down several times by the education system, managed to come out on top

Shanti Maria Fonseca I The Goan
Published Oct 27, 2012, 7:58 AM IST
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Defying the odds

Ermelinda Dias, doesn’t this name sound familiar?  In less than two decades this young lady fromthe village of Carmona has achieved much that many would wish to emulate.  She has studied and travelled throughout theworld and taken up tasks few would dare. At present she is the Director of Doordarshan Goa and is also theDirector of the Press Information Bureau (PIB) Goa.If Melinda, as she is popularly known has reached a stage inlife where she can pause and…

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